For the past couple of weeks, I have been afraid to write. Things have been going good with POF.... really good. Any "bumps in the road" that we come across are out of our control... i.e. his ex wife, but I've been afraid to write about what has been going on out of fear. Fear that it will end, or turn out to not be real, like many of my past relationships. Fear that I will jinx what I have with POF.
I have built up a lot of walls and defenses over the course of my dating life. I meet a guy, fall for him, open up my heart to him, get dumped, get hurt. A wall goes up. I meet another guy, question his motives just slightly longer but fall for him anyway, open up, get dumped, get hurt. You get the idea. It's like shampoo.....shampoo, rinse. repeat. It just keeps happening over and over again.
When I met POF, I didn't know how to take him. I was so cynical about dating, and "love" that I didn't trust his actions. I was always looking for the signs... he must be lying, right? Playing me to get what he wants, to get me in bed. I was certain as soon as I let my guard down, I would get hurt.
Well.... here I am. *looks around* My guard is down. I opened up my heart to POF. I'm writing about it. *gulp*
We have had an amazing time getting to know each other over the past month and a half. We have spend an entire week together. No work, no other committments... just us. Together. If you spend an entire week with someone, and you don't drive each other insane or get bored to death... I think that's a good sign.
So, as of now..... things are going very well.
Now, I just need to stop waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Monday, July 27, 2009
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
The Meeting
My new "boyfriend" ( yes, I'm still getting used to that term!) met all of my family last night. He came up to my Mom's house, where my son and I are visiting on vacation. My son didn't say much about the new boyfriend. I asked what he thought of him, and I got the typical kid response of "yeah, he was cool".
The boyfriend, otherwise known on here as POF guy, impressed my mom by bringing her a purple hydrangea plant, her fave!
The evening went well. It is important for someone you are dating to "fit in" with your family. It appears that he fits right in with my crazy, and sometimes weird family!
POF's mother has been asking about me. Look like I will be meeting her on Friday night!
The boyfriend, otherwise known on here as POF guy, impressed my mom by bringing her a purple hydrangea plant, her fave!
The evening went well. It is important for someone you are dating to "fit in" with your family. It appears that he fits right in with my crazy, and sometimes weird family!
POF's mother has been asking about me. Look like I will be meeting her on Friday night!
Monday, July 20, 2009
A New Chapter
I'm starting a new chapter in the Adventures of Dating Girl. I am officially "dating" POF guy now. The term "boyfriend" has been tossed around recently. POF came up to my home town last weekend and met my Brother & Sister-in-law.
Tomorrow, he will meet my Son and my Mother.
Things with POF have progressed faster than I had anticipated. After he came up and met my brother this past weekend, I saw how well he would fit in with my family. My son knew a little bit about POF, just because my Mom & Sister-in-law kept talking about him!
The only thing I hope is that I won't regret the decision to introduce my son to someone so quickly. I think that my son is getting older now, and is capable of meeting someone that I am spending time with, without having him think I am choosing someone over him.
My son has gone thru the process of his father getting remarried last year. He knows that after a divorce, parents do meet other people.
When I was growing up with a single mother, I hated the thought of her spending her time with anyone but me. She was MY mom. I think my son has a little bit of this attitude, because it has just been "the two of us" for almost 3 years now.
We'll see how things go tomorrow.
Tomorrow, he will meet my Son and my Mother.
Things with POF have progressed faster than I had anticipated. After he came up and met my brother this past weekend, I saw how well he would fit in with my family. My son knew a little bit about POF, just because my Mom & Sister-in-law kept talking about him!
The only thing I hope is that I won't regret the decision to introduce my son to someone so quickly. I think that my son is getting older now, and is capable of meeting someone that I am spending time with, without having him think I am choosing someone over him.
My son has gone thru the process of his father getting remarried last year. He knows that after a divorce, parents do meet other people.
When I was growing up with a single mother, I hated the thought of her spending her time with anyone but me. She was MY mom. I think my son has a little bit of this attitude, because it has just been "the two of us" for almost 3 years now.
We'll see how things go tomorrow.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Struggling
I just need to vent a bit.. so feel free to click on thru to the next blog, site, or what ever you were doing before you came to my site.
I found out today that my son won't be going to summer camp this summer. I had applied for scholarship money to pay for 2 weeks of camp for him, but was told today that there simply was no more money left. It's not a HUGE deal that my son won't be able to go to camp, but being a single mom with no family in the area, I like my son to be able to get together with other kids and socialize during summer break.
My other major concern lately is that my business has been slow. VERY slow. I only had 2 weddings this summer to photograph. The majority of my income over the summer months comes from doing weddings. Without the wedding income, I only have my freelance assignments, which also slow down during the summer months. I can go a couple of weeks with out working at all.
I get paid once a month from my freelance work. This months income... $675. My rent alone is $550. My "savings" is about gone, and I'm getting scared.
I have tried many times in the past few years to find a "real" job to help with the bills. But, being a single mom, I have a limited availability. I can only work when my son is in school. Mon-Fri- 8am-5:30pm, if I pay for my son to go to before & after care (which is now up to $15 a day!). There isn't a retail job out there that will hire someone for those hours. They all want you to be available nights & weekends. As I said earlier.... I have no family or friends around to watch my son.
I have searched for other job possibilities, but my qualifications don't apply to most "office/9-5" jobs.
So.... I will keep on struggling.
If you read thru this.... thanks. and I'm sorry for making you read my ranting and whining.
I found out today that my son won't be going to summer camp this summer. I had applied for scholarship money to pay for 2 weeks of camp for him, but was told today that there simply was no more money left. It's not a HUGE deal that my son won't be able to go to camp, but being a single mom with no family in the area, I like my son to be able to get together with other kids and socialize during summer break.
My other major concern lately is that my business has been slow. VERY slow. I only had 2 weddings this summer to photograph. The majority of my income over the summer months comes from doing weddings. Without the wedding income, I only have my freelance assignments, which also slow down during the summer months. I can go a couple of weeks with out working at all.
I get paid once a month from my freelance work. This months income... $675. My rent alone is $550. My "savings" is about gone, and I'm getting scared.
I have tried many times in the past few years to find a "real" job to help with the bills. But, being a single mom, I have a limited availability. I can only work when my son is in school. Mon-Fri- 8am-5:30pm, if I pay for my son to go to before & after care (which is now up to $15 a day!). There isn't a retail job out there that will hire someone for those hours. They all want you to be available nights & weekends. As I said earlier.... I have no family or friends around to watch my son.
I have searched for other job possibilities, but my qualifications don't apply to most "office/9-5" jobs.
So.... I will keep on struggling.
If you read thru this.... thanks. and I'm sorry for making you read my ranting and whining.
Friday, July 10, 2009
Game Delay
My "back in the game" attitude experienced a game delay. After a week of multiple dates, with multiple guys.... I got thrown off track by one of the guys.
POF guy, the "older guy", and I had 4 dates last week. We had a good time getting to know each other. I had to get past my hang up of him being 42, which is older than any guy I've dated before. After hanging out with him, I realized that on him, 42 wasn't that bad.
On our last date he brought me a dozen roses. Pink, my favorite color. He even came over to help me pack my car up for my vacation.
While I was on vacation, we kept in touch by texting a lot. A few days into the trip, I was in the movies when I received a phone call from POF. When I got done with the movie, I returned his call. He said he didn't call me. Hmmm. Confused.
A few minutes, I get a text from POF saying that while he was visiting his daughter, his ex-wife had taken his phone, and must have tried to call me. Great! Just what I need!
Sure enough, about a half hour later, I get a phone call from a number I didn't recoginize. I let it go to voicemail. It was the ex-wife. She introduced herself, and said she was "going to ruin everything for POF" and I.
The evening continued with multiple texts from her. Asking if I knew about POF ruining his daughters birthday (still don't know what that is about!), asking if I had sex with him, and if I had sent him "provocative" photos. She wanted to warn me about POF, and said the last 2 women he tried to date, broke up with him because he lied. She some how found my dating profile on the POF site, and asked if she could show it to her daughter. Her daughter didn't know anything about me before that!
I didn't respond to any of her calls or texts. I let POF know that she had called and texted, and let him know what kinds of things she was accusing him and I of.
I felt attacked, and like I was being judged by someone who doesn't even know me. I wanted to defend myself, but I didn't want to get involved with this woman. I left it up to POF to set his ex-wife straight, and to tell her to leave me alone. They obviously have some issues to work on between themselves before he should try to get involved with anyone else.
This whole episode has put dating POF on hold. I told him I needed time to think about what I wanted. I know what I don't want is to have to deal with a crazy ex-wife calling me and texting me!
I'm not writing POF guy off completely, but I am taking things VERY slowly now, cautiously considering any future dating possibilities.
POF guy, the "older guy", and I had 4 dates last week. We had a good time getting to know each other. I had to get past my hang up of him being 42, which is older than any guy I've dated before. After hanging out with him, I realized that on him, 42 wasn't that bad.
On our last date he brought me a dozen roses. Pink, my favorite color. He even came over to help me pack my car up for my vacation.
While I was on vacation, we kept in touch by texting a lot. A few days into the trip, I was in the movies when I received a phone call from POF. When I got done with the movie, I returned his call. He said he didn't call me. Hmmm. Confused.
A few minutes, I get a text from POF saying that while he was visiting his daughter, his ex-wife had taken his phone, and must have tried to call me. Great! Just what I need!
Sure enough, about a half hour later, I get a phone call from a number I didn't recoginize. I let it go to voicemail. It was the ex-wife. She introduced herself, and said she was "going to ruin everything for POF" and I.
The evening continued with multiple texts from her. Asking if I knew about POF ruining his daughters birthday (still don't know what that is about!), asking if I had sex with him, and if I had sent him "provocative" photos. She wanted to warn me about POF, and said the last 2 women he tried to date, broke up with him because he lied. She some how found my dating profile on the POF site, and asked if she could show it to her daughter. Her daughter didn't know anything about me before that!
I didn't respond to any of her calls or texts. I let POF know that she had called and texted, and let him know what kinds of things she was accusing him and I of.
I felt attacked, and like I was being judged by someone who doesn't even know me. I wanted to defend myself, but I didn't want to get involved with this woman. I left it up to POF to set his ex-wife straight, and to tell her to leave me alone. They obviously have some issues to work on between themselves before he should try to get involved with anyone else.
This whole episode has put dating POF on hold. I told him I needed time to think about what I wanted. I know what I don't want is to have to deal with a crazy ex-wife calling me and texting me!
I'm not writing POF guy off completely, but I am taking things VERY slowly now, cautiously considering any future dating possibilities.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Back in the Game
After my set back with Mr.Saturday, I didn't waste any time trying to set up new dates, and meet new people.
I met a twitter musician friend, and caught his show at a local bar. It was nice to see some live music and make a new friend.
I met Pie Guy twice this week for dinner dates, and caught a bit of a local outdoor concert. We enjoyed some wine, and conversation.
I had a first date with Mr. Sushi. Was a nice date, at my favorite sushi place. Again, good conversation.
I went to an outdoor concert/festival on Friday. I had left my number with a guy from Match earlier in the day, with the hopes that he would get out of work early enough to meet me there. I was pleasantly surprised when he contacted me, and we ended up hanging out at the concert all evening.
I was invited out to dinner on Saturday by a guy from POF. He's a little older, but I had a nice dinner date with him.
Looks like my dating slump has ended... or at least I hope!
I met a twitter musician friend, and caught his show at a local bar. It was nice to see some live music and make a new friend.
I met Pie Guy twice this week for dinner dates, and caught a bit of a local outdoor concert. We enjoyed some wine, and conversation.
I had a first date with Mr. Sushi. Was a nice date, at my favorite sushi place. Again, good conversation.
I went to an outdoor concert/festival on Friday. I had left my number with a guy from Match earlier in the day, with the hopes that he would get out of work early enough to meet me there. I was pleasantly surprised when he contacted me, and we ended up hanging out at the concert all evening.
I was invited out to dinner on Saturday by a guy from POF. He's a little older, but I had a nice dinner date with him.
Looks like my dating slump has ended... or at least I hope!
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