My "back in the game" attitude experienced a game delay. After a week of multiple dates, with multiple guys.... I got thrown off track by one of the guys.
POF guy, the "older guy", and I had 4 dates last week. We had a good time getting to know each other. I had to get past my hang up of him being 42, which is older than any guy I've dated before. After hanging out with him, I realized that on him, 42 wasn't that bad.
On our last date he brought me a dozen roses. Pink, my favorite color. He even came over to help me pack my car up for my vacation.
While I was on vacation, we kept in touch by texting a lot. A few days into the trip, I was in the movies when I received a phone call from POF. When I got done with the movie, I returned his call. He said he didn't call me. Hmmm. Confused.
A few minutes, I get a text from POF saying that while he was visiting his daughter, his ex-wife had taken his phone, and must have tried to call me. Great! Just what I need!
Sure enough, about a half hour later, I get a phone call from a number I didn't recoginize. I let it go to voicemail. It was the ex-wife. She introduced herself, and said she was "going to ruin everything for POF" and I.
The evening continued with multiple texts from her. Asking if I knew about POF ruining his daughters birthday (still don't know what that is about!), asking if I had sex with him, and if I had sent him "provocative" photos. She wanted to warn me about POF, and said the last 2 women he tried to date, broke up with him because he lied. She some how found my dating profile on the POF site, and asked if she could show it to her daughter. Her daughter didn't know anything about me before that!
I didn't respond to any of her calls or texts. I let POF know that she had called and texted, and let him know what kinds of things she was accusing him and I of.
I felt attacked, and like I was being judged by someone who doesn't even know me. I wanted to defend myself, but I didn't want to get involved with this woman. I left it up to POF to set his ex-wife straight, and to tell her to leave me alone. They obviously have some issues to work on between themselves before he should try to get involved with anyone else.
This whole episode has put dating POF on hold. I told him I needed time to think about what I wanted. I know what I don't want is to have to deal with a crazy ex-wife calling me and texting me!
I'm not writing POF guy off completely, but I am taking things VERY slowly now, cautiously considering any future dating possibilities.