I struggle with something.... My sexual self is doing battle with my romantic self. My sexual self is powerful and hungry, and has needs! While my romantic self is waiting for Mister Right to come along. In my ideal world, I would meet Mister Right and he will fulfill my sexual needs. It's the meeting part that I have to make it through.
Being a very sexual creature, I am very open about sexual topics. During a relationship, this is a wonderful thing... open communication, discussing needs... no secrets. During the "dating" process, being this sexually open usually leads to wrong impressions. A guy finds out that I am a sexual person, and a switch gets flipped in their brain.... the "She's easy" switch. Once this switch gets flipped, it's hard to turn it off. Once a guy finds out you are sexual, like sex, and like talking about sex... well, that's all he thinks about! He stops thinking about you as any sort of "relationship" material. Don't men want to be with women who are secure with their sexual selves?
Why can't a sexually liberated woman be open and honest about what she wants with out men thinking that is ALL she wants. Of course I want to experience great sex... lots and lots of great sex, but I want it with a partner I trust, and care about, and hell... even love.